They All Hurt, But This One Hurts Me More
I believe the women who accused Bill Cosby of drugging and assaulting them. And the men whom Kevin Spacey assaulted and harassed. And before Louis CK admitted it was true, I believed the women who accused him of being a Class A creep.
I was one of Louis CK’s biggest fans and that’s the only difference. I’m on his email list and have watched all of his specials and shows and eagerly anticipated the release of his now-cancelled new movie, I Love You Daddy.
Rumours about Louis surfaced several months ago. His former friend, and fellow comic Tig Notaro went public with rumours she had heard about Louis’ exposing himself to women. I love Tig but I loved Louis more so I hoped it wasn’t true. When asked, Louis said he wouldn’t respond to rumours. But why would Tig lie? She had nothing to gain.
The drumbeats got louder last week. Five women came forward with similar stories. Friends star Courteney Cox backed one of them up. Louis retreated and then admitted it was all true. He said he was sorry and he realizes now that he was wrong. He’ll stop talking and listen to what these women have to say.
Harvey Weinstein. Kevin Spacey. Brett Ratner. James Toback. Steven Seagal. All have multiple accusers. It’s an incomplete list. The size of this problem shocked many men but women know that crummy men take advantage of the power difference. Crummy men exist in every organization. I hope they’re quivering in their Louis Viuttons and worrying about when someone they mistreated will go public. It takes guts to name a name and weather the inevitable backlash and skepticism that comes. But it’s a favourable climate for speaking the truth and becoming part of the culture of change. We’re revealing our painful secrets and we’re not done yet.
A friend asked, “Didn’t you always think Louis CK was a bit of an a**hole?” An a**hole, yes, but the type who made me laugh and think about things in a new way. A loveable, curmudgeonly a**hole and not a creepy, predatory a**hole.. All a**holes are not created equal. Louis CK is finished. And even if he wasn’t finished, I’m finished with him.