EQ – emotional intelligence – isn’t about getting in touch with your inner child or learning how to cry. It’s the dealing-with-people-and-life version of IQ, which is your book-learnin’ and problem-solving intelligence. And unlike an IQ, an EQ can go way up if you want it to.
EQ first emerged when researchers noticed that in the business world, people with average IQs were out-performing those with high IQs and they aimed to find out why. The differences were put into five categories: self-awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy and social skills. Some of it is wired into our operating systems. They’re things that might actually be obvious to others, while we don’t see them as clearly in ourselves.
Writer Travis Bradberry distilled the EQ traits from various tests, and came up with the Eleven Signs That You Lack Emotional Intelligence. I think we’ll all see a bit of ourselves HERE.